My Thoughts On Long Distance Dating – The Upside

April 29, 2016
Now, I want to start this post by saying that long distance dating is never easy, so if you’re in a long distance relationship, I feel ya. When you finally meet someone you adore (so much), like I have, it makes it that much more difficult to be away from each other. Though, through deep chats and constant conversation with my BF, Bobby, I think it’s safe to say we’ve found some sort of silver lining when it comes to long distance dating – and how it could actually benefit you, and your relationship long term.

That said, I’m sharing the upside:

  • You tend to be more openly expressive and communicative on where you stand in the relationship because distance requires fuller levels of transparency in order to build confidence in both parties (turns out guys can talk about their feelings – say what?). 
  • You develop this mentality that if you can survive the distance, you could pretty much survive anything – think of yourselves as ninjas (ain’t nothin’ stopping us, babe).
  • You are more inclined to continue devoting your resources into your individual hobbies, friends, work, health, and sleep (Bobby’s favorite), since you aren’t able to see the other person as often – and in turn, come across fewer competing priorities each day.
  • You truly value the time spent together to a greater extent. And you use time both effectively and wisely (like, spending less time on your phone when you’re together) and without the laziness or ambivalence of inaction. You plan, and you build much faster — and have more fun in the process!
  • You become a smarter speaker, writer, and listener in your relationship, because text, email, and phone are all mediums that require a better output of communication in order to compensate for not being face-to-face (you might notice yourself saying, “I miss you sooooo much” a lot — guilty — and that’s OK! Say it loud, say it proud).
  • You become independent in your relationship, and take responsibility for your own happiness. This is a good reminder to never depend on others, and to always preserve the essence of who you are. You should realize that you don’t need to be with someone to be happy, but rather, you enjoy being with that someone, because it makes you happy – there’s a big difference.
  • You start to believe that absence does actually make the heart grow fonder, and that’s a good feeling – when you’re away from someone, you have time to fully appreciate who they are as a person, and why you care about them so much.
  • And lastly, you recognize that “spark,” and appreciate it. When you see your significant other after awhile, it’s like you’re meeting again for first time, and that’s a really sweet feeling – to me, that’s how love should feel, and continue to feel every day (even when you’re living in the same city, eventually).

Are you in a long distance relationship? If so, what are some things that you find beneficial about your current situation? I’d love to hear from you! Share in the comments section below.